I have but two things to say today.
#1 why is it that just because a man can have children he feels the need to care for them when he has court ordered visitation rights and then insist that he knows what is better for the child. Let me explain:
Andy and Mikie Jr. had visitation this weekend. Since the last fiasco in court I have kept it pretty tame as far as allowing the kids not to go. As far as I knew he was abiding by the court order. He understood the severity of Andy's diagnosis and was giving him his medication. This week Brian dropped them off around 10:30 Saturday morning... (He was supposed to come and get them at 9:00 a.m. but didn't want to leave his place and Brian had to leave anyway so he just dropped them off). I was out Sunday evening and called to have him get the boys ready as I would be picking them up (mind you he is also supposed to drop them off at 8 p.m. but I try to make it easier if I am out and about). 7:30 p.m. Sunday I pick up the boys. Andy reeks of Pee... when I ask why they both start in with Andy had an accident Saturday night and I didn't send clothes... Okay so dad can't call me? He has a cell phone and just this week he got a house phone... NOT one phone call from him this weekend asking for clothes for Andy. Second point is okay so he had an accident... you let him sit in those clothes all day long on Sunday. You couldn't give him a bath and put him in a pair of sweats and a t-shirt and wash his clothes in the sink if you can't get a hold of me... oh wait - There is no excuse as the kids have a way to get into the house even if you can't get a hold of me... so why would you do that? Secondly is Andy was animated when approaching the van... Cautiously I ask...
Me: How was your weekend?
Andy: Good.
Me: What did you do...
Andy: nothing really just watched tv...
Me: Okay (thinking to self here we go...)
Me: Hey did you get your meds this weekend.
Andy: Nope
Me: Did you get any of them
Andy: Nope dad didn't give me any of them... Said he didn't think I needed them.
WHO THE HELL DOES HE THINK HE IS!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
So the rest of the night was long
Andy's concentration was nonexistent so forget about homework... He had to get in to the tub as soon as we got home and I can't stand his father for yet another time! How could I have ever loved him? Do I turn him in for Neglect? (Child Protective Services) Do I start Court proceedings again? Do I just plan on being the parent even when they are over there and find them and administer Andy's meds myself to make sure he is getting them? FRUSTRATION... RAGE...
**UPDATED** I went back over to Dad's and asked for his pills. He played dumb and said he didn't know where they were... luckily Jeannie has nosey kids and her daughter gave me the pills... All of them were still in the same bottle as when I gave them to him on Saturday... So now I know for a fact and not just Andy stating he didn't get them... now what?
#2: Seen SAW IV last night! Loved it... My Man got me hooked on it - suspense, thriller, horror, etc... give it to me! I had to go out and buy the first one as we had 2 & 3 but couldn't find 1 anywhere around home... This is not for the weak stomach or heart people! A good break from the kids though as Patti was home with Haley and the boys were at father's (see above).
Okay to that is my Monday RANT!
Monday, October 29, 2007
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Update on Andy...
Since Anon Mom asked here it is...
Andy was in a terrible accident on 9/4/07. It was about 10:15 a.m. and I was at work. The call was from Four Winds Hospital (FWH) where Andy had been staying the past 2 weeks. He was on the playground riding a bike and fell and they thought he had sprained his ankle. They called the ambulance and he was en route to Saratoga ER. I started calling family and notified my bosses that I needed to leave. It took me close to 2 hours to get to the ER. By the time I got there FWH staff had already sat with him through x-rays and doctor's poking and prodding him. I asked what was going on and I was shown x-rays of his leg/ankle. He had broken both his tibia and fibia completely. In essence, he snapped his foot off his leg. They gave him more pain killers so he was in and out of consensus tried to set the break and put a cast on it. FWH wanted him to go back there but since he was on pain killers I did not feel that being away from me to help figure out his meds and behaviors was the thing to do. So I told FWH staff to start the discharge process. Upon admission I was told that it could take up to 72 hours for full discharge. I insisted that I was not leaving him in the state he was under their care so they started the paperwork. By the time he was discharged from the ER - full leg and foot cast FWH was in the process of packing all of his things. We then had to follow FWH transportation since technically he was still in their care. When we arrived his Therapist was in a meeting, so we sat. The therapist came out after about 30 mins and reviewed a discharge paper with me, who was going to be doing follow up therapy, who he would be his pdoc, who is pediatrician was... blah blah blah... gave up a script for meds that they had put him on, a script for the school to be able to give him his noon time dose and sent us on our way. The first week was long... He was in and out of sleep so much I felt so bad for him. NO WEIGHT BEARING. He started school a week late but this wasn't an issue since they were only doing academic assessments. His father never bothered to contact him to find out how he was or what was going on... That Monday following he started going to school. The meds seemed like they were doing the trick. He was concentrating during classes and getting along just fine, although homework time is horrendous. Then after about a week the school changed things... I guess this is for the good because he needs to get accustomed to changing classrooms for middle school. The behaviors started again. He now is in blocks and changes classrooms 4 - 5 times a day. He has behaviors most mornings and I have been called more than once because he is out of control but usually the teacher and his aids do a good job with redirection. If he can't handle the other classes he just goes back to his homeroom (12:1:1 class he is assigned to). He is academically as smart if not smarter than some of the 5th graders but he just doesn't want to/feel the need to/desire to do the work. He has been accepted to participate in band and is playing the trumpet. He enjoys this. So we use this when his behaviors get out of hand. It helps. I personally don't thing his meds are right still but they are way better than they were. Mornings are especially tough on him. After he receives his noontime adderall he is a completely different student. Efficient, alert, focused, etc... Should I push for a little more in the morning or keep it the way it is? (If I do get more in the morning are we going back down the same track as before as far as more and more meds to get what we want?) It has been 6 weeks... He is taking Adderall XR 30 mg 1 a.m.; 1 @ noon - Risperdal .25 mg a.m.; .5 mg HS, Cogentin 5 mg BID, and Depakote ER 250 mg 1 a.m.; 2 HS... SOMEONE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!
As far as the leg... We went to the orthodoc yesterday... CAST CAME OFF! FINALLY!!! however, still no weight bearing. He has to use the crutches still. No sports all school year and Physical Therapy 2 -3 times a week for at least the first month... then we go back and see how he is tolerating it... He said this is an injury that will effect him for at least 2 -3 years since both bones were broken right through. The hard thing to grasp is the fact that FWH isn't giving me a straight answer as to what happened. I have finally called them and asked for a copy of the actual report (for my records), they gave me a run around and said that they had to locate what happened to the report and would call me when they found it and was going to mail it. I tried calling a lawyer but they said I don't have a case... Andy said another kid rode another bike into him on purpose because him and Andy got into an argument earlier in the day... My question is isn't that neglect by FWH staff for not trying to defuse the situation or even can't I sue the kids parents? But no one wants to help... the transportation cost is killing me with the price of gas, I have no more benefit time from work so I have to take it with out pay for his doc appts the rest of the year, and he is still suffering because right now at 6 weeks later and up until the ortho doc gives us the okay he can't run, jump, hop, etc...
The rest of my life... is dull in comparison to this most of the time but I will update soon.
Andy was in a terrible accident on 9/4/07. It was about 10:15 a.m. and I was at work. The call was from Four Winds Hospital (FWH) where Andy had been staying the past 2 weeks. He was on the playground riding a bike and fell and they thought he had sprained his ankle. They called the ambulance and he was en route to Saratoga ER. I started calling family and notified my bosses that I needed to leave. It took me close to 2 hours to get to the ER. By the time I got there FWH staff had already sat with him through x-rays and doctor's poking and prodding him. I asked what was going on and I was shown x-rays of his leg/ankle. He had broken both his tibia and fibia completely. In essence, he snapped his foot off his leg. They gave him more pain killers so he was in and out of consensus tried to set the break and put a cast on it. FWH wanted him to go back there but since he was on pain killers I did not feel that being away from me to help figure out his meds and behaviors was the thing to do. So I told FWH staff to start the discharge process. Upon admission I was told that it could take up to 72 hours for full discharge. I insisted that I was not leaving him in the state he was under their care so they started the paperwork. By the time he was discharged from the ER - full leg and foot cast FWH was in the process of packing all of his things. We then had to follow FWH transportation since technically he was still in their care. When we arrived his Therapist was in a meeting, so we sat. The therapist came out after about 30 mins and reviewed a discharge paper with me, who was going to be doing follow up therapy, who he would be his pdoc, who is pediatrician was... blah blah blah... gave up a script for meds that they had put him on, a script for the school to be able to give him his noon time dose and sent us on our way. The first week was long... He was in and out of sleep so much I felt so bad for him. NO WEIGHT BEARING. He started school a week late but this wasn't an issue since they were only doing academic assessments. His father never bothered to contact him to find out how he was or what was going on... That Monday following he started going to school. The meds seemed like they were doing the trick. He was concentrating during classes and getting along just fine, although homework time is horrendous. Then after about a week the school changed things... I guess this is for the good because he needs to get accustomed to changing classrooms for middle school. The behaviors started again. He now is in blocks and changes classrooms 4 - 5 times a day. He has behaviors most mornings and I have been called more than once because he is out of control but usually the teacher and his aids do a good job with redirection. If he can't handle the other classes he just goes back to his homeroom (12:1:1 class he is assigned to). He is academically as smart if not smarter than some of the 5th graders but he just doesn't want to/feel the need to/desire to do the work. He has been accepted to participate in band and is playing the trumpet. He enjoys this. So we use this when his behaviors get out of hand. It helps. I personally don't thing his meds are right still but they are way better than they were. Mornings are especially tough on him. After he receives his noontime adderall he is a completely different student. Efficient, alert, focused, etc... Should I push for a little more in the morning or keep it the way it is? (If I do get more in the morning are we going back down the same track as before as far as more and more meds to get what we want?) It has been 6 weeks... He is taking Adderall XR 30 mg 1 a.m.; 1 @ noon - Risperdal .25 mg a.m.; .5 mg HS, Cogentin 5 mg BID, and Depakote ER 250 mg 1 a.m.; 2 HS... SOMEONE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!
As far as the leg... We went to the orthodoc yesterday... CAST CAME OFF! FINALLY!!! however, still no weight bearing. He has to use the crutches still. No sports all school year and Physical Therapy 2 -3 times a week for at least the first month... then we go back and see how he is tolerating it... He said this is an injury that will effect him for at least 2 -3 years since both bones were broken right through. The hard thing to grasp is the fact that FWH isn't giving me a straight answer as to what happened. I have finally called them and asked for a copy of the actual report (for my records), they gave me a run around and said that they had to locate what happened to the report and would call me when they found it and was going to mail it. I tried calling a lawyer but they said I don't have a case... Andy said another kid rode another bike into him on purpose because him and Andy got into an argument earlier in the day... My question is isn't that neglect by FWH staff for not trying to defuse the situation or even can't I sue the kids parents? But no one wants to help... the transportation cost is killing me with the price of gas, I have no more benefit time from work so I have to take it with out pay for his doc appts the rest of the year, and he is still suffering because right now at 6 weeks later and up until the ortho doc gives us the okay he can't run, jump, hop, etc...
The rest of my life... is dull in comparison to this most of the time but I will update soon.
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
WHY
Why is it that no one reads this?
Why is it that I always expect the worst?
Why is it that my relationships always fail?
Why is it that my kids disrespect me?
Why is it that I never feel good about myself?
Why is it that my friends are always guys?
Why is it that my friends here at work are pushing me away?
Why is it that when I think everything is fine, something come up?
Why is it that I always say yes, when I really me NO!?
Why am I the one that EVERYONE comes to for stupid things at work?
Why, Why, WHY!~
Why is it that I always expect the worst?
Why is it that my relationships always fail?
Why is it that my kids disrespect me?
Why is it that I never feel good about myself?
Why is it that my friends are always guys?
Why is it that my friends here at work are pushing me away?
Why is it that when I think everything is fine, something come up?
Why is it that I always say yes, when I really me NO!?
Why am I the one that EVERYONE comes to for stupid things at work?
Why, Why, WHY!~
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