DOUBLE BLOG DAY

Okay so I already posted something today but it is almost over (the work day) and I don't feel like doing anything so I sit here and ponder on life.

I just got into an argument with skater. He decided not to go home after school but went to his grandmothers instead. Now mind you, I don't mind that he goes there. He would probably move in if I let me but all I ask is a phone call - hey mom I'm going here. I mean I work until 5 and by the time I stop to the store and get dinner, pick up/drop off who I need I don't usually walk through my house door until 6 and for me to be wondering about where one of the kids are is the last thing I want to do. UGH! Common Courtesy - the only thing I want to make sure my kids learn from me! (not really but right now it is!)

So T is staying with me. I decided I have about 1/2 hour to discuss her before I leave for the day so here it goes. I met T about 9 years ago. She had a son (Texas) who was under a year old and she was then dating FatHead. Yeah I know what you are thinking (Jerry Springer all the way). FatHead and I had an okay relationship. We had joint custody of the 3 kids and I had my life when the kids were home and I had my single life when the kids were with him. It ended up that FatHead and T had a daughter together (little one). Anyway as things happened FatHead and T got into fights and FatHead would call me and ask "what do I do?!" Finally I got fed up with it and said I wasn't getting in the middle of their arguments anymore. I mean I was over him. Didn't want anything to do with him but gosh! Don't come to me with problems PLEASE! They are separated now, going on 6 years. But before T left I was introduced to her brother JD. He was and always will be the love of my life. He is the father of my Sugarplum. At the time Fathead wasn't taking care of the kids and T was doing it all. Now mind you she had been with him for 3 years and thought of them as her own which I started to hate in and of itself. I took FatHead to court and won sole custody of gymnast, skater, and bubba. Not long after that T did leave and for good that time (I think she was sticking around to make sure the kids were taken care of). T and I have been friends on and off again ever since. I say that because we have had our bad (REALLY BAD) problems. T has her life and I have mine and sometimes they meet in the middle and sometime they just don't. I don't complain about how she raises her kids and she doesn't complain about mine but that doesn't mean that we agree. You see we were in the middle of one of our tiffs in January 04. Sugarplum was born in June of 03 and T thought that just because she was her niece she could take her anytime and anywhere she wanted. While I was pregnant with Sugarplum JD ended up cheating and leaving me for someone else. In January of 04 T and this other woman we really close because basically T was close to her brother and wherever he was she hung out. Anyway on January 23rd, 2004 I was woken by a phone call from the other woman.

"Insanity"
"Other woman?"
"we lost him, he's gone"
"What are you talking about?"
"JD, he's gone"
"Otherwoman, WHAT THE HELL DO YOU MEAN HE IS GONE?"
*Mind you at this point I was freaking out since I have anxiety and all. I had no clue what he was talking about gone - gone where - left her, left the state, what?
"Insanity, JD passed away about an hour ago!"
"OMG!"
That morning I called all over finding out where T was because I knew JD's family would want Sugarplum with them (she is his only kid and he loved her soooooo much). T and I made amends and let peace be just that - peace. We were there for each other and pretty much for Sugarplum and her two kids that lost their favorite uncle too. Come to find out he aspirated in the middle of the night and died before the other woman could call 9-1-1. A lot of things run through my mind now a days and it boils down to I have Sugarplum and God may have taken JD but he left us (me, his family, his friends) something/someone so sweet and so lovable to remember him. She is just like him too.

The next month was crazy. I still went to work and I still got out of bed because I had to. I had no one else to take care of my kids, I had no one else to go to work so I could stay home. I mean geesh, yeah I had a kid with him but he cheated on me and left me for the other woman while I was carrying his child. He tried to control me. He was a horrible, horrible person. But a really, really good FATHER and Daddy! And now he is gone. Gone.

Anyway I was in the middle of telling you about T. While another story is that following fall T and I were pretty close again. She hooked me up with her boyfriend's BF and all things were good except when I was pulled over and was almost thrown in jail because I had a suspended license and warrants for my arrest. Come to find out T was pulled over during the summer and didn't have a valid license and instead of coping to it she used my name, dob, and SS since she already knew all of it. I had 3 warrants and so many tickets in different cities. I couldn't believe what she had done! I couldn't believe she would do this to me. I have to have a license. I have to get to and from work. I spoke with all the police that I needed to and I ended up filing impersonation charges on her. She ended up being the one with the warrants. Not because I wanted to get back at her but I had to in order to get the tickets dropped on my license - so needless to say that was the end of our friendship for a while.

To be continued at another point.